I wrote a blog back in 2012 about Math Equation: 5 Friends=You. It was about the theory that our income is the average of the 5 people we hang out with the most. Not only the income but the influences. It begs the question, is your circle of friends supportive? Or asked a different way, do you have a circle of friends or are your friends a cage? If your friends are not supportive, it is the same as being caged mentally and you will not grow and you will not prosper.
Just like the example I used in 2012 of Jack Canfield co-creator of the “Chicken Soup” book series. He talks about we become the sum of the top five people we hang around the most. We begin to speak like them, dress like them, live like them, earn like them, eat like them, exercise like them and most importantly believe like them. Have you ever looked at an election map? Those blues and reds are very clumped together aren’t they?
In order to prosper and succeed we must associate with friends that we aspire to be like. There is a reason for exclusive Country Clubs, Secret Societies and Exclusive Memberships and there is ignorance to think otherwise. The old saying of “birds of a feather flock together”. Like attracts like, it is the Law of Attraction, not a theory.
Just consider this, you will earn the average income of the top five people you hang out with most often. Take an honest look at your top five people you spend the most time with and take a look at their earnings. If you are the highest paid friend in the circle, the group is riding off of you and will eventually pull you down to their level. Like it or not people do influence our thoughts and dreams until it becomes our beliefs and then our actions. We can quite literally become whatever we want to be if we focus our thoughts towards our goals and not allow people to steal those dreams away because of their own limiting beliefs. Therefore, if you want to be better off with your income and your life this year, you have to pick better friends. Friends that are a circle of support and not a cage. Choose wisely my friends!
“Surround yourself with people who support you. Find champions”.—Sarah Gavron
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Tim Wilhoit is owner/principal of Your Friend 4 Life Insurance Agency in Nashville, TN. He is a family man, father of 3, grandfather of 2, entrepreneur, insurance agent, life insurance broker, employee benefit specialist, salesman, sales trainer, recruiter, public speaker, blogger, author and team leader with over 31 years of experience in sales and marketing in the insurance and beverage industries.