Today we live in a very materialistic society. We tend to judge people by the clothes they wear, the cars they drive or the house they live in. Is that what impresses you? As human beings, we tend to make up our mind about someone new in less than 10 seconds. How they carry themselves, their speech, their body language and their vibes. But within the first minute or so, we add their clothes, their shoes, their jewelry and their physical appearance. Are we always right? Are we always wrong? I believe most of us are impressed by the wrong things.
A recent survey I read suggested that most Americans admit to be impressed by 4 items.
Let’s examine each item. Money can be accumulated by criminals. Is that impressive? Followers can be accumulated by beauty and lack of morality. Is that impressive? Degrees can be earned by great students who lack the knowledge to implement them. Is that impressive? Titles can be self-given. For example, a one man business who calls himself the CEO. Is that impressive? All 4 of these impressive items can easily be manipulated by the wrong person to be impressive.
It is my belief that these 4 attributes should top Americans list to be impressed by instead.
These 4 attributes should be our focus for what really impresses us. Being truly generous, not giving with a camera crew following you around to earn more money from your so-called generosity, but giving when no one is watching. Integrity to a point someone would shoot craps with you over the phone, because of the trust you were able to build. Humility, especially after being the best at something or the richest at something without spewing arrogance. There really is a big difference between arrogance and confidence and it is called humility. Lastly kindness to everyone, not just to those that may help you, but kindness to those who can never repay you.
The late great Albert Einstein once quoted “the value of a man should be seen in what he gives and not in what he is able to receive. Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” That is a very valuable lesson from one of the smartest men that ever lived. Read this quote again and then the 8 bullets. Einstein had it right. May we all strive to be of value and not just successful.
“Character isn’t something you were born with and can’t change, like your fingerprints. It’s something you weren’t born with and must take responsibility for forming”.—Jim Rohn
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Tim Wilhoit is owner/principal of Your Friend 4 Life Insurance Agency in Nashville, TN. He is a family man, father of 3, grandfather of 1, entrepreneur, insurance agent, life insurance broker, salesman, sales trainer, recruiter, public speaker, blogger, author and team leader with over 28 years of experience in sales and marketing in the insurance and beverage industries.